I Want a Wife

“God’s got the perfect person in mind for you.” I’ve heard this advice more than once in the last week. Here’s the thing… I desire marriage and family. Those are undeniably things I want. I’ve actually had the thought “I want a child,” more times than the thought “I want a wife,” but I want both. Lately I’ve been having a lot of talks with friends about marriage, and singleness. I’ve been thinking a lot about it for myself, considering the pros and cons of each possibility, considering the scriptures, particularly 1 Corinthians 7, and considering what it would be … [Read more]

I’m Gonna Tell My Guy Friends I Love Them

Here’s why I’m gonna tell my guy friends that I love them: because I do love them. Pretty simple huh? The Problem We live in a culture that has, for all intents and purposes, reduced the the phrase “I love you” to only two definitions: I want to have sex with you. I vaguely wish that you would be happy, because being happy is so nice. Both of these definitions lack the true meaning of love. You want to know my definition? I steal it from J. Budziszewski who stole it from Aquinas, who stole it from Aristotle, who actually … [Read more]

Legality is Not Morality

In my Sunday afternoon group (homegroup) we’ve been going over various Christian ethics questions and trying to discern the Biblical worldview. I noticed a few times through the course of the lessons a dangerous and unquestioned assumption: if it’s legal, it must be good, or at the very least, not bad. For Christians, this is one of the most pernicious and harmful assumptions we can make in our time, so I’d like to flesh out this basic distinction a bit. We’ll start with defining the two terms, legality and morality, and then we’ll compare and contrast them. Finally, we’ll talk … [Read more]

A Dinosaur at Twenty-four

A Class this Summer This summer I took a class at Seminary called “Cultural Dynamics in Ministry.” Essentially, it was a cross-cultural missions class. It was a one-week intensive, which means you go 5 days in a row from 8-5 and do all the lectures for the three-credit-hour course in one week. To top it off, we had a first-time visiting professor from Asbury Seminary. He is a fairly well-known Christian Anthropologist (emphasis on the anthropologist part) who has quite a bit of experience in foreign missions. However, he’s very much NOT a theologian, which created conflict in class. He … [Read more]

The Day the Music Died

“As is consistently recognized in civil rights cases, the desire to accommodate others’ discomfort cannot justify a policy that singles out and disadvantages a particular class of students.”[1] A chilling quote from the letter sent from the Justice Department to all the school districts in the United States. It is the letter that represents a monumental day in my mind: the day the music died. If you don’t know what I’m referring to, “The Obama administration [has issued] a sweeping directive telling every public school district in the country to allow transgender students to use the bathrooms that match their gender … [Read more]